A lot of God’s children have continued to make grave and heartbreaking mistakes in their choice of a marriage partner. One of the major reasons for this is that most of these people do not seek God’s consent before making their choices. They chose their partners without God’s guidance.
Time has shown that regardless of how experienced and knowledgeable you are in other areas of life, you need God’s leading to choose the right partner. The major reason you need God is that God is omniscient while you are limited. Your perfection is not enough, and it can be influenced by emotional strain and stress. God is eternal and cannot be deceived because He knows all things even before they exist. God knows everyone’s hearts and can tell in detail what will happen from start to finish.
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As a result, God both knows who will and will not make a good spouse for you. He has a reason to keep you from marrying whoever it is. This implies that even a well-behaved, devout churchgoer may not be ideal for you since God does not consider wealth or outward looks.
The discipline, temperance, and selflessness that will allow the two of you to live in harmony may not be present in someone who appears to be physically attractive and to be very clever. Although they may be wealthy and successful, they do not possess Christ’s character.
“Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly”
Deuteronomy 7:3-4
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Marriage between a born-again Christian and an unbeliever is a disaster, regardless of how much tongues that person speaks. It is risky to think that you can lead your partner to Christ after marriage. Instead, it is wiser to lead your partner to Christ before your marriage. The danger is that your partner may turn you away from following God or influence you to serve other gods. Believers who made such mistakes have either lost their ministries or died prematurely.
Marrying someone who might turn out to be a trap or a burden for you is equally risky. To marry such people is to invite an early death. Unfortunately, there are many people who are actually the devil in disguise and numerous individuals are experiencing unimaginable hardships which they are unable to disclose to others as a result of making poor marital decisions.
And so you must be courageous enough to turn down proposals from a wealthy or good-looking person if God does not support such a union. Do not be swayed by just fake peace, fake wealth, or dazzling material things. These things should not be the basis for you to accept marrying any person because they are capable of weakening your strength over time. They will surely cause you to offend God, weaken your spiritual life, and make you a candidate for hell.
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Jezebel made her husband, Ahab, into a wicked king. She stirred up evil in Ahab’s heart, and he did abominable things as a king. Similarly, Solomon ruined his love for God when he entered into ridiculous marriages with unbelievers. An evil partner will facilitate your journey to hell and close every good door against you. It is a high risk to marry an unbeliever who has no desire to fear or love God.
You should continually ask yourself, “Who am I that I cannot be dealt with?” “If unbelievers dealt with Samson, David, and Solomon, who am I that I cannot be dealt with?” Who are you, moreover, to disregard warnings?
“Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? Yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his God, and God made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin”
Nehemiah 13:26