As the head of the wife, God commanded the husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. His love for the wife should not be as ordinary people love their wives, but as Christ loves the church. A good husband does not love himself more than he loves his wife. Because love knows no struggle, animosity or fighting, a good husband loves his wife as his own body because they are one flesh.
“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh”
(Ephesians 5:31, 28-30).
A decent husband takes the same care for his wife’s comfort as he does for his own. He sees her as an extension of himself. By giving her food, clothes, and other necessities, he nourishes and cherishes her.
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“Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them”
(Colossians 3:19).
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered”
(1 Peter 3:7).
Therefore, as you honor yourself, as a husband, honor your wife the same way. If it is not possible to be harsh on yourself, do not be harsh on your wife because she is the weaker vessel. When your body needs sleep, you honor its demand. When it needs food, you do everything possible to provide food for your body. Likewise you should defend your wife, provide for her spiritually, materially and psychologically, as you would do for yourself. You have to use your strength to protect your wife as a weaker vessel. You must study your wife, delight in her and understand when she needs your attention.
“1Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 4Charity suffered long, and is kind; charity envied not; charity vaunted not itself, is not puffed up, 5Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8Charity never faileth: but whether there are prophecies, they shall fail; whether there are tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away”
(1 Corinthians 13:1, 4-8).
Scriptures made it binding that husbands must love and cherish their wives, as Christ loves his church. You are to comfort and support her, and seek for her best spiritual good and shun every form of anger or bitterness.
“Let thy fountain is blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love”
(Proverbs 5:18-19).
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The source of their wives’ happiness, peace, and confidence should be their husbands. You can’t let anything keep you apart from your wife. You must not let a friend or relative interfere with your marriage. God commands you to leave your family and stick with your bride.
The kind of relationship that exists between a husband and his wife defines the quality of defense their children get against satanic attacks. Good relationship between children and their parents is also very important. Above all, the relationship between the whole family and God, how they receive and obey the Word of God, is the most important.
”Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord”
(Ephesians 6:1-4).
Demons cannot gain access into the life of any child who obeys his parents in the Lord and honors his father and mother. There is a promise attached with children’s obedience to their parents. Children who obey their parents live long and prosper on earth. It is the duty of the parents to tell their children their responsibilities and make sure that they obey. Parents are to behave lovingly to their children and make sure that they rebuke and correct them the right way.
“And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colors that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying”
(2 Samuel 13:19).
“Then Adonijah the son of Haggith exalted himself, saying, I will be king: and he prepared him chariots and horsemen, and fifty men to run before him. And his father had not displeased him at any time in saying, why hast thou done so? And he also was a very goodly man; and his mother bare him after Absalom”
(1 Kings 1:5-6).
Parents should be good examples to their children through the lives they live. If you do not want your children to live immoral lives, then you must not allow the devil to drag you into immorality. Sin is contagious and can spread to unborn generation. Parents are not to abuse their authorities over their children by severe treatment in both words and deeds.
In the occasion of correcting a child, parents should be moderate and reasonable. Their discipline must not communicate extreme anger at their children. Otherwise, they would have wasted their time trying to correct their children. Distances between children and parents should be discouraged. Otherwise, devil would take every slight advantage.
“Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged”
(Colossians 3:21).