What Are The Secrets To A Good Home?
Submission and love in the family is essential to keep your marriage going.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything“. Ephesians 5:22, 23
“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord“. Colossians 3:17, 18
Requirements for Submission and Love in the Home
The Fruit of the Spirit
The family’s first requirement for submission and love is the fruit of the spirit. Being filled with the Spirit will enable couples to speak the truth to one another with overflowing joy, enlightening and encouraging one another, being thankful to God in every situation, and submissively walking and working in the fear of God.
Mutual Submission and Understanding
They must understand that they owe each other mutual submission by yielding to God’s word.
The Role of the Wife in Submission
However, the woman’s loveliness, tenderness, and gentleness will assist her in knowing that the scriptures require her to submit to everything in the family and that her husband is the head to whom she must submit. She should submit to everything except to what is contrary to faith and pure conscience. The husband has no right to require his wife to disobey God.
“But Peter and John answered and said unto them, whether it be right in the sight of God to hearken unto you more than unto God, judge ye. Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, we ought to obey God rather than men“. Acts 4:19; 5:29
The Husband’s Responsibility as Provider.
Spiritual and Physical Provision
The husband must do everything possible to save his wife spiritually and physically from lack, affliction, pain, and any external force.
Submission in Love
As a wife, you are required to submit to everything that’s not contrary to the will of God. Submitting as God commands requires that the wife submits in love, not as an enslaved person who may be compelled to be obedient.
The Kind of Love a Husband Should Have for His Wife
Christ-like Love
“But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement“. 1 Peter 3:4-6
Husbands are commanded to love their wives not as the Old Testament husbands loved their wives but as Christ loved the church. Before any husband can fulfill this command, he must die to himself, being ready to pay any price, even unto death, like Christ loved the church. Where there’s love, there’s no hate, struggle, or fighting but a glorious relationship.
Unity and Oneness in Marriage
“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh“. Ephesians 5:28-31
“Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them“. Colossians 3:19
Meeting the Wife’s Needs
The kind of love the husband should have for his wife is such that he would care and comfort her the same way he would for himself. He should regard her wife as one with himself, to nourish and cherish her like he cherishes every part of his body, including providing food and all her necessities. How you care for every part of your body is how you are required to meet your wife’s spiritual, physical, social, financial, material, or psychological needs.
The Secret to Marital Happiness
Mutual Love and Respect
The greatest secret of marital happiness is mutual love, kindness, tenderness, and loveliness of character in the home.
The Wife’s Approach to Disagreement
The wife should respect and obey her husband; even if she must differ from her husband’s orders, she should do so with gentleness. However, if the husband insists, she should not fight but allow God to fight for her. Afterward, she should endeavor to be a better wife and make her husband and family better. Her fight should be spiritual, and she should pray that God will make her husband a better person. Marriage is indeed one of the benefits of God’s mercy.